As humans, we are brilliant at picking from a wide range of excuses to limit our capabilities.
Here are a few examples:
From starting a new year’s resolution and not completing it, from going to the gym and already missing days to showing up or even just procrastinating on important items in reaching our gosls.
It starts by deciding. When we make a decision, we can set our own priorities. If you are unable to accept responsibility for your actions our mistakes it will be very hard to gain respect from other people.
Where do the best go to get better? They Own It!
7 Steps of How To Positively Influence Others:
1. Actively listen to what people are saying instead of hearing them.
Actively listening involves giving your full attention to the speaker, understanding their perspective, and responding thoughtfully. This can include:
- Focusing on what the speaker is saying, instead of interrupting or thinking about what you will say next
- Asking questions to clarify understanding
- Avoiding distractions and minimizing interruptions
- Reflecting on what the speaker is saying and summarizing their key points
- Showing verbal and nonverbal cues that you are engaged and interested
- Avoiding making assumptions or jumping to conclusions about what the speaker is saying.
It takes time and practice to develop active listening skills, but it is an important way to build effective communication and relationships.
2. Show your appreciation for others by saying “thank you”.
Showing appreciation by saying “thank you” is a simple but powerful way to acknowledge and value the contributions of others. Here are a few ways to show appreciation when saying “thank you”:
- Be specific: Instead of saying a general “thank you,” mention the specific action or behavior that you are grateful for.
- Be sincere: Make sure your “thank you” is genuine and heartfelt, not just a formality.
- Be timely: Express your appreciation as soon as possible after the event or action has occurred.
- Be personal: Use the person’s name and make eye contact when expressing your gratitude.
- Be creative: You can express your gratitude in various ways, by writing a note, making a phone call, giving a gift or even a hug.
- Show how the action or behavior benefited you or others.
Remember that expressing gratitude is not just about the words you use, it’s also about the attitude and energy behind them.
3. Practice what you preach
Practicing what you preach means living according to the values and principles that you espouse. Here are a few ways to practice what you preach:
- Be self-aware: Understand your own values, beliefs, and behaviors, and be honest with yourself about how well you align with them.
- Lead by example: Act in ways that are consistent with your values and principles, and be willing to be held accountable for your actions.
- Communicate openly and honestly: Be transparent about your values and principles, and be willing to have open and honest conversations about how well you are living up to them.
- Continuously improve: Reflect on your actions and behaviors, and make changes as needed to better align with your values and principles.
- Be humble: Admit when you have failed to live up to your values and principles, and be willing to learn from your mistakes.
- Encourage others to do the same: Share your values and principles with others and invite them to hold you accountable and to reflect on their own actions and behaviors.
Practicing what you preach takes effort and commitment, but it can help to build trust, credibility, and respect in your relationships and interactions with others.
4. Be kind rather than being right and choose to be happy.
Being kind rather than being right involves prioritizing the well-being and feelings of others over winning an argument or proving a point. Here are a few ways to be kind rather than being right:
- Listen actively: Give the other person your full attention, try to understand their perspective, and avoid interrupting or dismissing their views.
- Empathize: Put yourself in the other person’s shoes and try to understand how they might be feeling.
- Avoid criticism: Instead of criticizing the other person, try to express your views and concerns in a constructive and non-judgmental way.
- Avoid defensiveness: Be open to feedback, and try to see things from the other person’s perspective, even if you don’t agree with them.
- Seek common ground: Try to find areas of agreement and build on them, rather than focusing on areas of disagreement.
- Show respect: Treat the other person with respect, even if you don’t agree with them.
It’s important to remember that everyone has different perspectives, experiences and it is possible to disagree and still be kind. Being kind can help to build stronger, more positive relationships and can lead to more productive and effective communication
5. Reading 30 minutes a day to improve your imagination and vocabulary.
Reading is important for imagination and vocabulary development for several reasons:
- Exposure to new ideas and perspectives: Reading exposes you to a wide range of ideas, cultures, and perspectives, which can help to expand your imagination and understanding of the world.
- Vocabulary development: Reading helps to expose you to new words and phrases, which can help to expand your vocabulary. When you encounter a new word, you can look up its meaning and use it in context, which can help to increase your understanding and retention of it.
- Improving comprehension and critical thinking skills: Reading helps to improve your comprehension and critical thinking skills, which can help you to better understand, interpret, and analyze the information that you are reading.
- Enhancing creativity: Reading fiction can help to stimulate your imagination and creativity, as it allows you to visualize the scenes and characters described in the story, and to make connections between the story and your own experiences.
- Relaxation: Reading can be a great way to unwind, relax, and de-stress. It allows you to escape into a different world and forget about your daily worries.
Overall, reading can help to improve your imagination, vocabulary, and cognitive skills, and can also be a great source of entertainment and relaxation.
6. Staying in control while minding your business.
“Mind your own business” means focusing on your own affairs and not becoming excessively involved in the affairs of others. Here are a few ways to mind your own business:
- Respect boundaries: Respect the privacy and autonomy of others, and do not intrude on their personal affairs unless they have specifically asked for your help or advice.
- Avoid gossiping: Gossiping about the affairs of others can be hurtful and damaging, and it’s best to avoid participating in it.
- Do not pry into other’s personal information without their consent.
- Practice self-reflection: Instead of focusing on the affairs of others, take the time to reflect on your own thoughts, feelings, and actions.
- Set your own boundaries: It’s important to learn to say no to things that don’t align with your values or that you don’t want to do.
- Mind your own emotions: It’s important to be aware of how you feel and how your feelings may be affecting your interactions with others.
- Remember that you can’t control the actions of others.
Minding your own business takes practice and self-awareness, but it can help to promote healthy relationships and a sense of inner peace.
7. Stay in good vibration is the law of attraction energy.
Staying in a good vibration and having good energy involves maintaining a positive and optimistic outlook, and taking care of your physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being. Here are a few ways to stay in a good vibration and have good energy:
- Practice gratitude: Focus on the things that you are thankful for and make a habit of expressing gratitude.
- Exercise: Regular physical activity can help to improve your mood and energy levels.
- Eat a balanced diet: Eating a balanced diet that is rich in fruits, vegetables, and whole grains can help to improve your energy levels and overall well-being.
- Get enough sleep: Make sure you are getting enough sleep each night, as lack of sleep can affect your mood and energy levels.
- Practice mindfulness: Take the time to be present in the moment and focus on your breath, this can help to reduce stress and improve your overall well-being.
- Surround yourself with positive people: The people you spend time with can have a big impact on your energy levels and vibration. Surround yourself with positive, uplifting people, and avoid those who drain your energy.
- Listen to your body: Pay attention to how your body feels and respond accordingly, if you feel tired, take a nap, if you feel hungry, eat something.
- Practice self-care: Take time to do things that make you feel good, whether it’s reading a book, taking a bath or listening to music.
It’s important to remember that maintaining good energy and vibration is a continuous process and requires consistent effort. But by incorporating these practices into your daily routine, you can improve your overall well-being and feel better both physically and emotionally.