Many people must realize that before they can experience personal growth, they must first go through emotional healing. When you are stuck in place and constantly feel as if you can’t move forward, most often, it is due to trauma that must be dealt with first. Most of the time, people are focused on solving the wrong problem. What you think is blocking you from achieving your goal might not be the actual blocker.
Everyone needs someone who can lift us when we can’t lift ourselves. Emotional healing starts with the people you bring into your life. Surround yourself with people who lift you, not people who bring you down.
“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with.” — Jim Rohn.
Emotional healing is not ignoring negative feelings but processing them.
There is nothing wrong with feeling disappointed. Heavy emotions are a necessity in life. Emotions like sadness and disappointment are valid but don’t tip the scales into shame. Once you tip into shame, you are no longer in problem-solving mode.
Shaming someone is one of the worst things you can do; shaming yourself is just as bad. Emotional healing from shame can be challenging. We typically mimic the treatment we have witnessed before. Most people who shame others have been shamed in the past. Shame is a boomerang. When we hand out shame, it comes right back at us.
The process of personal growth through emotional healing.
Emotional healing is a process. You grow as you heal. But you have to feel the pain to heal it. When you are really growing, it is meant to hurt. When a lesson is added to your essence, you feel a certain amount of pain. To learn this lesson, you must let go of the habits, beliefs, and mindsets that contradict your future self.
Let go of your past self to move into your future self.
If you want to become someone different, you need to take on your future self’s thoughts, actions, and routines.
Most people are more committed to who they are now than to whom they want to be in the future. They are more attached to their past than to their present or future. You need to let go of who you are today to evolve into your future self.
How to let go of the past.
- Acknowledge the good things you have.
- Appreciate everything around you.
- Change your language. Change the words you are using to describe your present situation. You also need to change the words you speak to yourself. Remember that words matter. They become the house you live in.
The road to personal growth
A mind that creates the problem does not create the solution. If you want to become the best version of your future self, the you of today needs to die. You can’t go in two directions at the same time. “Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure you are not, in fact, surrounded by toxic people.” Focus on the abundance in your life.