Finding yourself can be hard when you don’t know where to start. But, to be the best version of ourselves, we must understand how to optimize our identity, and we must know who we are. “We don’t get what we want. We get what we are.” People often give up on their goals because their identity doesn’t match. You must look within to find what you are passionate about and discover who you are. Then we must become the person that deserves the goals we have set.
What does that mean? Am I a good enough person? Deserving the goal you set has nothing to do with being a good person and being nice. It is only the actions you take to deserve the goal. Showing your actions is evidence that you deserve your goal. The world is not yet a crazy enough place to reward people that don’t deserve it.
Finding yourself can create a purpose statement to propel you toward your goals.
- Your purpose statement should reflect who you want to be.
- Stand up and recite your major definite purpose statement.
- Writing it is one thing, but reciting it out loud ties the emotion to your goals.
- Convince yourself with passion and conviction that the goals are real.
Finding yourself starts with education.
Educate yourself by reaching out to mentors and by reading books. The Cone of learning shows that we don’t retain info we passively listen to. Powerful learning comes from the action you take around it. When you are in constant massive action, you learn eight times faster. Your reticular activating system gets activated, and your brain is more alert to take action.
Productivity and time management.
Becoming the best version of ourselves depends on the action we take. Once you know your passion and purpose statement, you can continue finding yourself and optimizing your identity through action.
Commit to the first action to reach your goal. There is a difference between taking minor or massive action. Taking minor action creates more work for you because you have to do it over and over again. Massive action sets you up to work less and uses less energy and thinking time because you have scheduled and set up everything that needs to be accomplished.
Redesign your identity.
“If your health is not in check, you will be on a weaker level.”
Redesign your identity to get what you deserve. Having routines is the best way to redesign your identity. A morning routine is essential because it sets the tone for the day. Get up and get dressed. Write out your goals. Smile. Write out your life purpose statement. The most important thing to do in the morning is to write down what you are grateful for. “As your goals expand, so should the size of your gratitude.”
Use meditation to find what you are passionate about.
Meditation is designed to control thinking. Whether finding yourself or rediscovering what you are passionate about, meditation is an excellent tool to tap into your inner truth.
Scan your body and get in touch with your senses. Listen to your thoughts and pretend as if the thoughts are a detached perspective. Thoughts are natural, but you can be in control of your response to them.
Movement impacts your identity.
Daily exercise is vital to keep your energy and body fit. Find what works for you. Understand what works for you may not work for everyone else. What makes you feel alive and awake? At the very least, you need to be walking.
Your inner spirit is affected by external appearance.
Dress every day as if your goals are real. Dress the part. When opportunities pop up, you are ready to go. Stay ready, so you don’t need to get ready.
The Takeaway: Finding yourself to optimize your identity.
Finding yourself will not happen overnight. It takes time and patience. We can get what we deserve when we know who we are. A routine sets the tone for the day, so set yourself up for success. Write and recite a statement that reflects your purpose. Dress the part you are trying to achieve as if you have already reached that goal. You have it in you to be the best version of yourself, so take action to achieve your goals.